We all have friends, and friends come in all sizes, shapes, nature and maturity levels. The difficult part is how do tackle the certain issues that our friends may have. After all, at the end of the day, nobody is perfect. So what do we do with the girlfriend who can’t stop to gossip, or the friend that has to do everything we do, or the one that can be extremely critical and cold?
Here are some kinds of people that we come across everyday:
1. The Gas-bag:
They are the ones who know what everyone is doing, where, how and with whom. In opposition to the common assumption, the truth is that guys can gossip way more than girls. So if we have a friend who loves to gossip what do we do? Guilty as we maybe, but we cannot deny the fact that its always fun to hear a piece of gossip about someone (anyone!) to pass your time. But when the object of discussion is you, it can be very stingy. The best thing to do is to NOT let this friend of yours share a piece of gossip with you as well. Tell them it’s not very kind to invade people’s privacy because what goes around comes around. And remember, you might also want to keep some of your secrets to yourself even though they are your best friends because you always run the risk of having the world know about it.
2. The parents:
They are not your actual biological parents. They belong to the same age group as you but have a deep rooted desire of parenthood, which is not bad though, which they want to fulfill with you. They have all the solutions to your problems, the problem here: it seems like you are talking to your mom. It always gets a little difficult to actually open up with them no matter how close they are to you, considering the fact that they think on a level beyond yours and tend to get preachy. Now, if you have a problem where you would want to take advice from someone mature, they are the perfect folks to reach out to. However, you’d rather bury your face in sand than seek their advice for a childish or teenage everyday problem. For e.g., ask them whether or not you should go out on a date with that music guy, and watch them flip out.
3. The ‘Too close for comfort’ friends:
This is a very common problem. Now, we must understand that people who have been friends for ages will be curious about what is going on in the lives of each other. They will be best friends with your mates and the hosts of all your parties. However, some friends might forget to draw the line. They are the over enthusiastic friends who want to know everything that goes on in your life. Right from what you wore on your date, to where you went, what you had and whether or not you kissed. There is no other way out for that situation. You have to take a firm stand and tell them to take a step back because you would like some privacy, but make sure that you say it nicely, because remember they question because they care.
4. The critics:
These are the friends that will show no mercy if they see you do something wrong. They can be very judgmental and critical. They are the ones who are so straightforward that it actually hurts and always manage to see the errors a machine can skip. They are the ones who will tell you not to fool around with that moron, rather coldly, because they do not see anything good coming out of it. They are the ones who will ask you to stop missing on to college and work because you can not get enough of your enjoyment. They are your well-wishers, but they can annoy every nerve of your body. The best way to deal with them is to probably not argue with them, because frustrating as it maybe, they are usually right. You can ask them to be a little less critical, as chances are that they may not even realize they are being mean.
5. The copy-cats:
They are the ones who will do everything you do. You like that top, they like it too; you take those classes, they take it too; you do something and they want to do the exact same thing. Although it might be flattering initially, it is never fun to watch your identity and individuality being taken away almost literally right under your nose. It is very difficult to deal with them because there is no easy way to ask them to stop being your Xerox copy without sounding rude. The best thing to do in this case is simply to make sure you don’t talk much about your plans with them, just in case they mend theirs too. Help them discover what they like, what they want to do and give them a lot of space and freedom even if they are your BFFs.
6. The private ones:
They are the exact opposite of the ones who are too close for comfort. They could be the best friend you can ever get, yet they seem to be aloof at most times. What you have to understand is that they have hearts warmer than you think and emotions that are very tightly controlled. Give them the right outlet, and they can make a really fun company. Take them to movies, take them to places with a lot of expression that will help them open up. You know that friend of yours who will never talk about the problem to you but rather sulk, or the friend who is all happy go lucky but can be totally out of scene on some days, or the one who seems like something is always worrying her, chances are that something really is. Give them time, don’t be pushy. They probably don’t like to discuss their problems so there is nothing to feel bad about if they say they don’t want to talk about it. They value what you have to say but are generally afraid of what they might have to hear.
It is almost impossible to find a friend who fit in to all your expectations. And come to think of it, not having any single one of these can be pretty annoying too, or else, who will you ask about what to wear on that date of yours, what assignments you need to do, if the guy or girl you like is single, whether you should take that class up or not and what to get your parents for their anniversary. As they say, we all have friends.
Tuesday, August 18, 2009
Sunday, July 5, 2009
Here's a list of things that i want to do before i die.
1. Bungee jump from a plane, or helicopter.
2. Cliff diving, from the rock into the ocean. no ropes, nothing to hold on to.
3. Exploring a forbidden cave, and no, not with torches or lanterns, but with a burning log of wood.
4. Exploring a long forgotten place, some place where you wont find people going.
5. Riding a classic old rickety bike on a thin road, amongst trees, in the rain. :)
6. Being in a shack in Scotland, with fire burning in the fireplace, hills and rains outside the window, coffee in my hand.
7. Doing the same thing as above, on the icy peek of a mountain, with a bonfire.
8. Riding a bike right through the sea.
9. Visiting at least 10 different countries, meeting their folks, eating their specialties.
1. Bungee jump from a plane, or helicopter.
2. Cliff diving, from the rock into the ocean. no ropes, nothing to hold on to.
3. Exploring a forbidden cave, and no, not with torches or lanterns, but with a burning log of wood.
4. Exploring a long forgotten place, some place where you wont find people going.
5. Riding a classic old rickety bike on a thin road, amongst trees, in the rain. :)
6. Being in a shack in Scotland, with fire burning in the fireplace, hills and rains outside the window, coffee in my hand.
7. Doing the same thing as above, on the icy peek of a mountain, with a bonfire.
8. Riding a bike right through the sea.
9. Visiting at least 10 different countries, meeting their folks, eating their specialties.
Homosexuality is legal in India. FINALLY!
Although there are still fellowmen who think its dampening our culture to let something like homosexuality be legalized. These blokes should just be asked to mind their own businesses. Seriously. And then there was this interview by Baba Ramdev where he was talking about how we should try to turn homosexuals into heterosexuals by trying to push them towards the people of the opposite sex. This man, with all due respect, should stick to yoga.
For all those who did not know about it, according to article 377, homosexuality was a crime and the person in charge could be, as much as sentenced to 10 years of jail. All hail to the rules of the largest democracy in the world. Hypocrisy at its best eh.
Anyway, it must be a good news for all the people in concern. Congratulations you guys. And for the government, thank you for finally understanding the meaning of democracy.
And for all the people who have a problem with it, mind your own business will you. I don't reckon anybody whether gay OR straight would even want to hit on you.
Although there are still fellowmen who think its dampening our culture to let something like homosexuality be legalized. These blokes should just be asked to mind their own businesses. Seriously. And then there was this interview by Baba Ramdev where he was talking about how we should try to turn homosexuals into heterosexuals by trying to push them towards the people of the opposite sex. This man, with all due respect, should stick to yoga.
For all those who did not know about it, according to article 377, homosexuality was a crime and the person in charge could be, as much as sentenced to 10 years of jail. All hail to the rules of the largest democracy in the world. Hypocrisy at its best eh.
Anyway, it must be a good news for all the people in concern. Congratulations you guys. And for the government, thank you for finally understanding the meaning of democracy.
And for all the people who have a problem with it, mind your own business will you. I don't reckon anybody whether gay OR straight would even want to hit on you.
Thursday, July 2, 2009
Break-ups are a part of every freaking teenager alive. Yep we have all been there, done that. Its more like, we eat, we drink, we sleep, we hook up, and we break up.
So how do you know what to do once you have broken up with your guy? Well, it totally depends on the type of break up you had.
# 1 – The mutual break up:
Well let’s just face it, this type SUCKS. You are left with no reason to dislike the guy if you still are not over him. The biggest mistake girls tend to make in this category of break up is to TRY to be strong and cool about it. But to be honest that is just not happening. You feel suddenly single, directionless and lonely. I guess this is where the human anatomy did wonders by creating this thing called a ‘shoulder’. So go ahead grab a girlfriend and there you are. Cry it out. Don’t try to befriend you ex the next day itself and take your time out. Since its mutual, getting back as friends is the easiest as nobody feels duped.
Songs you can listen to: Coldplay- Fix you.
Oasis- Stop crying your heart out. :D
Led Zeppelin- The Rain Song
death cab for cutie- lack of colour
# 2 – He cheated on you break-up:
OK. Let’s get the facts straight. This guy is a LOSER. He does not deserve you in the first place and you should be rather glad he out of your life. And if the girl he is going out with knew about it she deserves him. The biggest mistake that girls make in here is crying for a spastic moron who is totally not worth it. You can have two possible reactions to this, if you are the sweet girlie girl- ignorance is bliss, but if you want to get back to him (which in every way you should) make his life hell I say. Dress up to kill and let the loser know what he missed on to. Stalk him if you have to and make sure the bi*ch does not have a good time ever again. Flirt around and get the life you lost while you were dating him back. Don’t miss on the fun. Let the devil in you rise to power. ;)
Songs you can listen to: Kelly Clarkson- Never again
Kelly Clarkson- Since you have been gone
Beyonce- Irreplaceable
Hillary duff- Stranger
Rihanna- Take a bow
Simple plan- Your love is a lie
# 3 – He is just not into you:
This can be one of the harshest break-up for the girls. Even though we appreciate the honesty of the guy when he says that he just does not feel the same way anymore or that he is not into you its still sucks. The biggest mistake that girls do in this break-up is to put the blame on them. How many of us have felt that there is something wrong with us and that is the reason why it ended the way it did. In reality, that’s so not the case. You should just understand that you were not symmetrical at a level and it was the best to break it up than to drag it around. So cry as much as you want but don’t loathe yourself for it. Try not to see his face for a million years and take your sweet time.
Songs you can listen to: Audioslave- I m the highway
Take that patience
Good charlotte- Hold on
Linkin park- Numb (teehee.. no I m just kidding)
Death cab for the cutie- Lack of color
Switchfoot- You.
# 4- You dumped him.
Alright so you couldn’t take the relationship and ended it by yourself. You don’t have to feel like a bitch coz it was in your best interest. And just so that you know that’s one of the toughest thing to do and requires a lot of courage so just breathe. There is only one thing you can do and that is try not to be around him for some while. And flirting with other guys in front of him is an absolute no-no unless you want your ex lover wanting to shred you to pieces or maybe feel like a loser. Remember how you felt when you were dumped by your guy. So show some respect.
Songs you can listen to: Not that you need any but yet following make a good option:
The OC soundtrack- Honey and the moon
Anna Nalick- Breathe
The Fray- How to save a life.
And if you had a strange break up which doesn’t fall into any of the above category please let us know about it.
So how do you know what to do once you have broken up with your guy? Well, it totally depends on the type of break up you had.
# 1 – The mutual break up:
Well let’s just face it, this type SUCKS. You are left with no reason to dislike the guy if you still are not over him. The biggest mistake girls tend to make in this category of break up is to TRY to be strong and cool about it. But to be honest that is just not happening. You feel suddenly single, directionless and lonely. I guess this is where the human anatomy did wonders by creating this thing called a ‘shoulder’. So go ahead grab a girlfriend and there you are. Cry it out. Don’t try to befriend you ex the next day itself and take your time out. Since its mutual, getting back as friends is the easiest as nobody feels duped.
Songs you can listen to: Coldplay- Fix you.
Oasis- Stop crying your heart out. :D
Led Zeppelin- The Rain Song
death cab for cutie- lack of colour
# 2 – He cheated on you break-up:
OK. Let’s get the facts straight. This guy is a LOSER. He does not deserve you in the first place and you should be rather glad he out of your life. And if the girl he is going out with knew about it she deserves him. The biggest mistake that girls make in here is crying for a spastic moron who is totally not worth it. You can have two possible reactions to this, if you are the sweet girlie girl- ignorance is bliss, but if you want to get back to him (which in every way you should) make his life hell I say. Dress up to kill and let the loser know what he missed on to. Stalk him if you have to and make sure the bi*ch does not have a good time ever again. Flirt around and get the life you lost while you were dating him back. Don’t miss on the fun. Let the devil in you rise to power. ;)
Songs you can listen to: Kelly Clarkson- Never again
Kelly Clarkson- Since you have been gone
Beyonce- Irreplaceable
Hillary duff- Stranger
Rihanna- Take a bow
Simple plan- Your love is a lie
# 3 – He is just not into you:
This can be one of the harshest break-up for the girls. Even though we appreciate the honesty of the guy when he says that he just does not feel the same way anymore or that he is not into you its still sucks. The biggest mistake that girls do in this break-up is to put the blame on them. How many of us have felt that there is something wrong with us and that is the reason why it ended the way it did. In reality, that’s so not the case. You should just understand that you were not symmetrical at a level and it was the best to break it up than to drag it around. So cry as much as you want but don’t loathe yourself for it. Try not to see his face for a million years and take your sweet time.
Songs you can listen to: Audioslave- I m the highway
Take that patience
Good charlotte- Hold on
Linkin park- Numb (teehee.. no I m just kidding)
Death cab for the cutie- Lack of color
Switchfoot- You.
# 4- You dumped him.
Alright so you couldn’t take the relationship and ended it by yourself. You don’t have to feel like a bitch coz it was in your best interest. And just so that you know that’s one of the toughest thing to do and requires a lot of courage so just breathe. There is only one thing you can do and that is try not to be around him for some while. And flirting with other guys in front of him is an absolute no-no unless you want your ex lover wanting to shred you to pieces or maybe feel like a loser. Remember how you felt when you were dumped by your guy. So show some respect.
Songs you can listen to: Not that you need any but yet following make a good option:
The OC soundtrack- Honey and the moon
Anna Nalick- Breathe
The Fray- How to save a life.
And if you had a strange break up which doesn’t fall into any of the above category please let us know about it.
Here is a list of questions that always makes you wonder why?
1. Why is it that the pretty chicks always date ugly guys?
2. Why is it that the smart chicks always end up liking taciturn loser type of guys?
3. Why is it that the smart hot guys always end up with stupid girls? The kind that if, they get there skulls x-ray-ed they will find a peanut inside it.
4. Why is it that all the profs that walk out of the class saying that they will never teach us again come back shamelessly the next day?
5. Why is it that when we are totally pissed things just find a way to screw up further?
6. Why is it that every time we are watching TV something ..well.. lame pops up the moment our parents enter.
7. Why is it that a girl dating an elder guy is cool but a guy dating an elder girl gets raised eyebrows?
8. Why is it that we can manage to lose only 10 grams after weeks of work outs and gain 1 kg with an extra little meal?
9. Why do we always promise to ourselves on the first day of the sem to make notes and study from day one but always end up studying exactly 10 hours before the exam?
10. Why do we always trip, fall or embarrass ourselves in any way possible only when our crush is around?
1. Why is it that the pretty chicks always date ugly guys?
2. Why is it that the smart chicks always end up liking taciturn loser type of guys?
3. Why is it that the smart hot guys always end up with stupid girls? The kind that if, they get there skulls x-ray-ed they will find a peanut inside it.
4. Why is it that all the profs that walk out of the class saying that they will never teach us again come back shamelessly the next day?
5. Why is it that when we are totally pissed things just find a way to screw up further?
6. Why is it that every time we are watching TV something ..well.. lame pops up the moment our parents enter.
7. Why is it that a girl dating an elder guy is cool but a guy dating an elder girl gets raised eyebrows?
8. Why is it that we can manage to lose only 10 grams after weeks of work outs and gain 1 kg with an extra little meal?
9. Why do we always promise to ourselves on the first day of the sem to make notes and study from day one but always end up studying exactly 10 hours before the exam?
10. Why do we always trip, fall or embarrass ourselves in any way possible only when our crush is around?
Thursday, June 25, 2009
Bangalore City.
I absolutely love this place. For all the people who are a little weird and to themselves, Bangalore is THE place for you. People in Bangalore don’t care a ruddy darn rat’s poop to what the others are up to. Most of them are foreigners and good ones at that. The place is a paradise for shopoholics like me, given that all the brands are available inhere. You name it, they have it. The composition of the crowd goes like this- 50% of the people are folks from the other asian countires, rest must be an equal mix of foreigners and Indians.
The best things about Bangalore:
1. Nobody will stare at you (precisely your legs) if you are wearing shorts or hot pants. (well, apart from some paanwalas)
2. This is one place where people can actually walk and sit around casually with a beer pint.
3. People are friendly. either they will not bother you at all or they might as well want to give you company. So if you are sitting at a coffee shop or by the lake (in my case), people won’t just sit and stare, but they will actually have the guts to approach. (moulisha, sid, spandit and ranveer-:) )
4. Pub culture is fun yet, most of them are a little reserved.
5. The weather is awesome, cold in the morning, warm in the day time, breezy and windy by the evening and cold at night. Perfect.
Best place – Brigade road.
I m gonna miss being in the city. And I m gonna miss the friends I got there. (Wow, I don’t think I even deserve you guys in the first place, really.)
Oh, by the way, the rikshawalas suck. They charge any crap for moving an ant hole. Buggers.
I absolutely love this place. For all the people who are a little weird and to themselves, Bangalore is THE place for you. People in Bangalore don’t care a ruddy darn rat’s poop to what the others are up to. Most of them are foreigners and good ones at that. The place is a paradise for shopoholics like me, given that all the brands are available inhere. You name it, they have it. The composition of the crowd goes like this- 50% of the people are folks from the other asian countires, rest must be an equal mix of foreigners and Indians.
The best things about Bangalore:
1. Nobody will stare at you (precisely your legs) if you are wearing shorts or hot pants. (well, apart from some paanwalas)
2. This is one place where people can actually walk and sit around casually with a beer pint.
3. People are friendly. either they will not bother you at all or they might as well want to give you company. So if you are sitting at a coffee shop or by the lake (in my case), people won’t just sit and stare, but they will actually have the guts to approach. (moulisha, sid, spandit and ranveer-:) )
4. Pub culture is fun yet, most of them are a little reserved.
5. The weather is awesome, cold in the morning, warm in the day time, breezy and windy by the evening and cold at night. Perfect.
Best place – Brigade road.
I m gonna miss being in the city. And I m gonna miss the friends I got there. (Wow, I don’t think I even deserve you guys in the first place, really.)
Oh, by the way, the rikshawalas suck. They charge any crap for moving an ant hole. Buggers.
Saturday, May 30, 2009
here is a list of bizarre incidences that take place due to this certain phenomenon called love (or infatuation). And all these are true people. No kidding.
1. my super practical friend is now a coconut overflowing with the water of emotions. she now talks about love, bliss, serenity, blah! eh?
2. my super romantic friend totally chickens out in front of guys and has difficulty in expressing herself.
irony.
3. this one chick that i know has a spine of steel is the most fragile and delicate human being alive when shes with her guy.
4. this guy i know, who had an abstinence from spending a single penny on waste earlier, has been winding money like crazy for indulging his girlfriend. eh? little does he know hes making an absolute fool of himself.
5. the most egoistic people on the planet can take a lot of crap coming from the people they love. eh?
6. a friend of mine who is very close to being barney from how i met your mother is the most devoted, caring boyfriend ( sure, he pretends to be, barney like i said.) and for worse - she falls for it. there's a competition for who's more bizarre in here.
7. doing things you hate for the person you love.
8. giving up things you love coz you know your guy/ girl hates them.
9. trying to be what your guy / girl wants you to be rather than being yourself. now people, if this really IS the case you need to clearly set your priorities straight and judge your relationship.
10. dressing up in the cloths that your partner likes you best dressed in. (hmm. sweet)
11. my mom always tastes the food she serves to dad just to make sure he will like it the best even after years of marriage. (aww..)
its crazy what this thing make us do right. this love, infatuation, crush or whatever it is we have. :)
1. my super practical friend is now a coconut overflowing with the water of emotions. she now talks about love, bliss, serenity, blah! eh?
2. my super romantic friend totally chickens out in front of guys and has difficulty in expressing herself.
irony.
3. this one chick that i know has a spine of steel is the most fragile and delicate human being alive when shes with her guy.
4. this guy i know, who had an abstinence from spending a single penny on waste earlier, has been winding money like crazy for indulging his girlfriend. eh? little does he know hes making an absolute fool of himself.
5. the most egoistic people on the planet can take a lot of crap coming from the people they love. eh?
6. a friend of mine who is very close to being barney from how i met your mother is the most devoted, caring boyfriend ( sure, he pretends to be, barney like i said.) and for worse - she falls for it. there's a competition for who's more bizarre in here.
7. doing things you hate for the person you love.
8. giving up things you love coz you know your guy/ girl hates them.
9. trying to be what your guy / girl wants you to be rather than being yourself. now people, if this really IS the case you need to clearly set your priorities straight and judge your relationship.
10. dressing up in the cloths that your partner likes you best dressed in. (hmm. sweet)
11. my mom always tastes the food she serves to dad just to make sure he will like it the best even after years of marriage. (aww..)
its crazy what this thing make us do right. this love, infatuation, crush or whatever it is we have. :)
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